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We’ll be playing Quiplash on Kast!

We’re playing Quiplash on November 9, 2020 at 5:00 pm pst/8:00 pm est with our listeners on Kast! 

Kast is a super easy platform that doesn’t require any downloads, just your computer. You can check out Kast and how it works here. 

Simply RSVP below to get your free ticket and make sure you have popcorn!

If you have any questions or need help, don’t hesitate to reach out to us at DeathIsHilarious@gmail.com

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Yes, God, Yes

We’re watching Yes, God, Yes on November 4, 2020 at 5:00 pm pst/8:00 pm est with our listeners on Kast! 

Kast is a super easy platform that doesn’t require any downloads, just your computer. You can check out Kast and how it works here. 

Simply RSVP below to get your free ticket and make sure you have popcorn!

If you have any questions or need help, don’t hesitate to reach out to us at DeathIsHilarious@gmail.com

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Interview With Comedian Mimi Hayes

In this episode, Tawny sat down to chat with Mimi Hayes, comedian, podcaster, brain hemorrhage survivor and author of “I’ll Be OK, It’s Just a Hole in My Head (A Memoir On Heartbreak and Head Trauma).”

Mimi talks about dumping her trauma on other humans during stand-up, a nurse with the most abrupt bedside manner in the world, having a field day with a bleeding brain, using humor to avoid reality, fighting for her life, and how friends and family change during trauma.

“I have grown up with a permanent smile on my face. And then I had a brain hemorrhage. And I smiled some more. I smiled more because smiling makes you laugh. And when you laugh, you forget for a second that your brain is actually bleeding which makes absolutely no sense. Humor has always been and will always be my defense mechanism. I don’t claim to know much, but I do know this: If you can survive a brain surgery with your sense of humor intact, it’s a job well done.” – Mimi Hayes

Learn more about Mimi by visiting MimiHayes.com

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“A Dirty Bit: RBG + Sarah Grimké” & “Goo”

https://www.spreaker.com/user/11489398/ep-12-death-is-hilarious-rbg-sarah-grimk

In this episode created just before our RBG movie night, Tawny revisits The Dirty Bits and talks about the woman who inspired Ruth Bader Ginsberg’s quote, “I ask no favor for my sex; all I ask of our brethren is that they take their feet off our necks” while Sami talks about the goo that goes on and comes out of your body.

From The Show:

“I want to share a dirty bit of history with you tonight that gave me some much needed hope and even laughter during this dark time. So without further ado, here’s an encouraging and kind of funny story about Ruth Bader Ginsberg, Sarah Grimké, and the long fight for equality in America.” – Tawny 

“I want to share an old bit of mine with you. I first performed it at a variety show put on by friends, circa 2014 or so. I may be blending memories here, since we did this kind of event more than once, but I think this happened the same night my friend recited the most angsty poem he could find while dressed as a volcano.” – Sam

“But her parents were like, “Yeah, for sure, you’re super smart hon, but advanced book learning and law are very unladylike pursuits, you’ll just need to squash those desires down and control your sinful lusting after academia. It’s really too bad you aren’t a guy because you’d be the greatest lawyer in South Carolina and like, the greatest jurist in the country. It really sucks about your vagina, Sarah, truly, so sorry.” – Tawny

“I am sorry for using the word juice in that context. That might be the nastiest sentence I have ever written.” – Sam

“And it was super easy, everyone agreed with them, they abolished slavery, and everybody lived happily ever after! Just kidding, they put up with so much bullshit.” – Tawny

“I’m not quite a Nasty Bitch because I don’t care enough about haters to try to hurt their feelings. But for that same quality I’m definitely a Cold Hearted Bitch. For a short while I was a Bad Ass Bitch, but I lost that title sometime after I quit drinking Dumb Bitch Juice.” – Sam

Also, here’s a screenshot of something we’ve been working on in the studio! Visual segments coming soon.

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Movie Night

RBG

We’re watching the documentary RBG on  Friday the 25th at 5:00 pm pst with our listeners on Kast! 

Kast is a super easy platform that doesn’t require any downloads, just your computer. You can check out Kast and how it works here. 

We’ll email you the link on Friday before the movie starts. Simply enter your address below to get your ticket and make sure you have popcorn!

If you have any questions or need help, don’t hesitate to reach out to us at DeathIsHilarious@gmail.com

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“Widow Jokes” and “Bi Panic”

https://www.spreaker.com/user/11489398/episode-11-widow-jokes-and-bi-panic-fina

Tawny talks about widow humor, making things awkward,  her emotional service dog going on strike, and canceling her dead husband’s phone line. Sam presents a series of bi observations, including danger noodles and polyamory.

In This Episode:

“Personally I think that joke would have killed George… but I guess it’s too late for that.” – Tawny

“I present… a series of bi observations. They’re all over the place. Just like my sexuality.” – Sam

“Like, nobody tells me my ass is amazing every day anymore. So I’m left to wonder… if an ass is amazing and nobody is around to compliment it, does it still retain it’s amazingness? “ – Tawny 

“They want to know how we feel about the dick. Is there any dick that is an acceptable exception? What if it’s a really good dick? Would you look at this dick and tell me what you think? Can the dick just sit in a corner and watch?” – Sam

“Dog…it always feels so disingenuous calling her that. Dogs do things like protect you and they can eat a quarter-inch of a french fry without vomiting. Yes, this dog once ate a quarter-inch of a french fry and then epically threw up on the friend who gave it to her.” – Tawny

“So you know the Gay Agenda? Well, now get ready for the Bitenerary.” – Sam

Also, here’s a screenshot of something we’ve been working on in the studio! Visual segments coming soon.

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Because of Covid

I share the not-so-fun stuff about being a widow mostly because I’ve been told not to talk about it by so many people. I’ve been told to only share positive things, uplifting things, inspirational things, and things that demonstrate how strong I am. 

These folks want me to exclusively share those things because it makes them feel better and more comfortable. 

When I was first widowed, I googled frantically. Not only had my husband died, but my only source of unconditional love had died, my only family had died, and my support system died. George was my very best friend who filled just about all of my needs.

I googled because I hoped I wasn’t the only young, weird, lonely widow who didn’t find comfort in hearing about “God’s plan” or “how I needed to be strong and care for the other grieving people around me” (because I had “only been with him for six years” and I was “so young and would get married again soon.”)

Thankfully, other widows had been brave enough to share their stories and I found comfort in the fact that they didn’t use bologna platitudes. 

I found Michelle Miller’s book, “Vodka Soup for the Widowed Soul: Stories of Grief, Alcohol, Infidelity, Cursing and Hope.” I found The Hot Young Widows Club. I found Anjali Pinto’s articles, “When I Became a Widow at 27, I Used Sex to Survive My Heartbreak” and “I was judged for having sex after my husband died. I think he would have understood.”

If these women hadn’t been brave enough to share their realities and make me feel less “wrong” about who I am as a person (the person my husband fiercely loved, I might add), I don’t think I would have survived. 

The fact of the matter is that my reality isn’t comfortable. I get it. But here’s the thing- my same uncomfortable reality could quickly become anyone’s reality in the U.S today because of covid.

That’s why I’m sharing about how hard it is to be hospitalized for the third time in a month with chronic health issues. I’m in one of the same hospitals that my terminally ill husband with a heart condition stayed in. But now I’m the one with an EKG and oxygen monitor. And I had nightmares last night about all of the things I could have done to save him ( I watched him die again and again until I finally gave up on sleep at 4:00 am).

Because of covid, there’s nobody to hug and there’s no hand to hold while I’m in here (or at home, for that matter). So once again, I turn to comedy. I force myself to laugh by watching gut busting stand-up routines, shows, movies, and YouTube videos. I write endless routines and sketches for the various clients and projects I’m a part of.

I also share. 

I share partially because I’m hoping to connect with others who feel this way and partially because I don’t want anyone else who’s already hurting to feel any shame by doing what they have to in order to survive.

What makes you laugh so hard your side hurts? Like, what makes you straight up guffaw? Let me know in the comments below!

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Tawny’s Traumedy List

“If you can’t laugh at the pain, what can you do with it?” You can’t let it make you bitter, but you can let it make you better.” -Roscoe Burnems

Tawny’s Traumedy Recommendations: My Favorite Comedies Involving Tragedy 

Help me add to the list!

Comment below and let me know what comedy/drama movies, shows, podcasts, comedians, Instagrammers, and TikTokers I missed.

Movies

  1. Silver Linings Playbook – The movie about the “crazy slut with the dead husband.”
  2. Coco – Pixar once again delivers on both the emotional terrorism and comedy front. 
  3. Moonlight Mile – All of the weirdness and inevitable laughter that surround tragic loss.
  4. Hamilton – Phillipa Soo gives an incredibly accurate portrayal of grief and loss in this musical with plenty of comedic moments. 

TV & Series

  1. Dead To Me – Christina Applegate is a suburban widow who headbangs to screamo in her car and curses loudly, further reminding us there’s no wrong way to grieve. 
  2. Jane The Virgin – MILD SPOILERS – The representation of young widows and the laughable absurdity that comes along with trying to navigate a new life is spot on. It’s a telenovela so it’s silly, sweet, sad, and super self-aware. I watched this season right after my husband passed away. 

Podcasts

  1. Terrible, Thanks For Asking
  2. Griefcast
  3. Good Grief

Comedians

  1. Patton Oswalt –  On how grieving in public is therapeutic 
  2. JC Coccoli – A Comedian In Grief
  3. Glen Tickle – Good Grief 
  4. Kelli Dunham
  5. Pete Davidson
  6. Laurie Kilmartin – 45 Jokes About My Dead Dad
  7. Roscoe Burnems – Traumedy

Instagram

  1. The Foul Mouthed Widow
  2. Mouthy Michelle – Author of, “Boys, Booze, and Bathroom Floors” & “Vodka Soup for the Widowed Soul”

Tik Tok

  1. @glitterandgrief
  2. @jessicapelatt
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“Exes and Crosses” and “Hysteria”

https://www.spreaker.com/user/11489398/episode-10-death-is-hilarious-final

Sam talks about their experience with a love triangle in the evangelical church, scheduling panic attacks, and emotional discipline. Tawny shares about a recent hospital stay with “Dr. Dude.”

In This Episode:

“And like, I COULD be drinking or shooting black tar heroin or having promiscuous sex but I’m just eating too many chocolate covered blueberries and breadsticks so ya know…. it really could be worse” – Tawny

“Maybe I should have kept her out of my life. She once told me, with no shame, she used to…kill…hummingbirds. She fed them to her dog.” – Sami

“As I’ve mentioned before, my husband’s death wasn’t exactly my first time at the trauma rodeo. I’ve had some health issues throughout my life that have caused me to be fairly on edge when it comes to my wellness… probably because the doctors at a notoriously shitty private healthcare group in San Diego I, unfortunately, had insurance with at the time were perfectly fine with letting me die from sepsis.” – Tawny 

“But the older I get, the more I can practically reschedule my worst emotions. This fuckery again? Oh hell no. Come back next Tuesday at 2 pm. That’s a trick I never thought would work. I’m starting to be able to schedule my fee-fees. Lately, I’ve been using a time blocking journal. It helps me manage the endless afternoons of corona time, while also penciling in regular breaks to allow myself a good pandemic cry.” – Sam

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