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My husband died suddenly and traumatically in April 2021.I was left to raise a 2 year old all by myself. The thought of navigating life as an already traumatized millennial now with complex trauma, left me frozen.
I searched and searched for resources and found that nothing resonated until I came across Tawny’s Instagram at the end of July.
I dm’d her and was immediately welcomed into a discord server full of likeminded individuals full of grief, love, and jokes just like me. Connecting with other widow(er)s on the daily has set me up for continuing to live a life I’m passionate about despite the pain of losing the love of my life.
I am forever grateful for Tawny and all that the Death is Hilarious foundation has provided me with.
Before Death is Hilarious, I had convinced myself that I was thoroughly and forever alone. I shut down, refusing to engage with society at all. Finding this group helped me start to feel like a human again. It’s the only place in the world I can go and feel completely understood.
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I became an unmarried widow at 22 and found the DIH Discord group for young widows in their 20-30s around the one year anniversary of my partner dying.
I’d been in a few other grief supprt groups but the other people were often significantly older than me and experiencing different challenges. None of my friends or peers could relate in any way because hardly anyone loses a partner so young. I felt so alone.
I was in a bad place when I joined the Discord group and I don’t know if I’d still be here if I hadn’t joined. Meeting so many people who get it, who you can relate to, who you can laugh and cry with and who support you through the ups and downs saved me.
The group has people from around the world so there’s nearly always someone awake to talk to! I’m so grateful for DIH, and a lot of the friends I’ve made through it are like a second family.
I’m not alone, you won’t be either
My fiancée died in early 2020. I found Death Is Hilarious almost exactly 2 years later in early 2022. I have a great support system consisting of my own family and friends who helped a lot, but they could only do so much. I searched for support groups and hopped around to a few, but just didn’t connect. I felt stifled and out of place because I was usually the only male and the only person under 55. They weren’t really providing the support I needed and I felt alone in my grief in a sad & bad way.
I was coming up on the 2 year anniversary of her death and was getting beat down mentally and emotionally, until I found DIH.
I finally found a community that offered helpful support group gatherings that addressed the whole gamut of emotions and where laughter and jokes were encouraged. I met people who are in similar situations and have similar thoughts, feelings, and grief as myself. We quickly connected and I was quickly accepted into the club no one wants to be a part of but is glad they found.
Finding this group and having a forum comprised of people at similar stages of life dealing with grief just like me helped pull me out of the hole I had fallen into and has given me the chance to understand myself, my grief, and help others with their own by simply sharing and talking. The positive effects have been noticeable to myself and my family. I have learned so much about coping and processing my grief in a healthy way from the other group members, and I am thankful for their support.
Another great thing that comes with being a part of this community is being able to unabashedly share about my fiancée and the love we shared and get sincere, supportive and loving reactions from everyone else, and then hearing about the loves they have lost and returning the support in kind.
I’m glad I found DIH, and that it’s a safe place to grieve for everyone.
I Don’t Know Where I’d Be Without Y’all
Death Is Hilarious has been the biggest support I could imagine. Becoming a widow at 26 is honestly terrifying. My whole world was ripped away from me and I’m still picking up the pieces. I found this group through Instagram; and joined my first support group meeting a month after my husbands death.
I mean this when I say: I have no idea where I’d be without y’all. This group has changed my life for the better during the darkest time of my life. Through both the discord and the zoom groups, I have found support and comfort that I never thought I’d get. Especially as a widow grieving with dark humor, a lot of people didn’t get me. It was relieving to find people I could make my jokes to that would laugh with me instead of looking at me like I’m a weirdo.
Tawny had made me feel so welcomed and included that after my first group meeting I knew I was going to keep coming back.
And the mentorship program has been great for me too. I have my mentor who I continue to work with through out my grieving process. The match up was even better then I could have expected or hoped for. And it’s really nice knowing I have one person I can turn to and ask questions, or ask to hop on a zoom chat with me whenever I need it.